Dear Dick: Quick to the Finish

Dear Dick,

I’ve got an ongoing problem that’s really starting to put a crimp in my sex life. Guys I fool around with seem to be able to last a long time without ejaculating, but I’m always ready to go within a few minutes! To reference a recent Glee episode, I have to think about old ladies in their panties for a minute before I can start going again, and it’s getting to be a real drag.

Any suggestions?

Did It in a Minute

Dear Did It,

Premature ejaculation is a bummer. Sometimes it's biological—your body just behaves this way; sometimes it's due to training because when you first started diddling you needed to make it quick so that you wouldn't get caught by a parent or sibling. You may need to see a sex therapist, but before you do that let me make some (much cheaper) suggestions:

1. Be of Service

Remove the emphasis off your linguine of love and instead take time to please your partner. No man will turn down the extra attention, and when he's getting closer to completion you can better time your finish.

2. Stay Slightly Out of Reach

When you're working your guy, keep away from his hands. That way he won't accidentally work you into a frenzy before you're ready.

3. Tease Yourself

This isn't to say that you should keep your privates sequestered like a nun. As you're helping him along, give yourself a little tease. Work up those sensations then stop yourself before things go too far. This kind of "touch and retreat" method may help train you to handle the excitement.

4. Tell Him What's Up

Guys LOVE knowing that what they're doing is turning you on. It feeds their ego and the sex (because, as Dear Dick often says, great sex begins in the brain). So if things are getting close, tell him. But do it as a compliment. That way it's not a buzz kill, it's a sex thrill.

5. Mix It Up

If you're the poker, consider using your fingers or toys some of the time. They add naughtiness and variety, and let you last longer.

6. Keep Going

Some guys don't lose their erections after ejaculating. If you're one of those men, replace the glove and start again. Yes, the penis can be sensitive but you can work through that. If you do drop your rock then immediately devote yourself to his pleasure, letting him know that you can go again—and plan to because he's so frickin' amazing! (See, there's that ego-feeding-the-brain-feeding-the-sex thing again.) Then, after 20 minutes or so, you’ll be good to go, and the second orgasm is likely to be a much longer time in arriving.

Try these things out and see how they work for you. If they don't, then seek out professional help.

 







Dear Dick isn't a doctor or health worker of any kind, but he did struggle with quick completion as a young buck. Fortunately, he's taken care of that situation and is happy to write about his experiences.

Grindr

I admit, one of my reasons buying Android phone was because Grindr for Android had finally been released. Been wanting to try that piece of gay-amazing-thing-a-ma-jiggie for awhile. Fridae and Trevvy are sooo last year, don't you think?

Last night when I flipped Grindr on my phone, I found someone from old gay scene (you know you know, you should also remember someone or two from when you were first introduced yourself to local gay circle). He wasn't that young when I first knew him. But now, seeing his face again after some time. Man... How time flies so fast. Although he's balding now, and looks older more mature, I still recognize him (this doesn't reciprocate, though).

Me: "Hei, Ko XXX?"
XXX: "Who's this?"
Well, it's not like I did something something more than just chat with him back then :p

To much surprise, I realized that the gay circle around here is not really different than what I knew 8 years ago (yeah that was when I first knew IRC and Trevvy). Only now it exists on different and much modern package, that is Grindr.

Owh, and if you see someone on Grindr with nick ++Chris++, that's me :)

Hong Kong - Macau Trip

Pictures worth more than a thousand words. Anyone interested joining me next time? :)

The Woman in Black

Woman In Black, and it's not the sequel of Will Smith's Men In Black, no. It's the first movie starred by Daniel Radcliffe post Harry Potter era.
I instantly wanted to watch this movie ever since I saw the trailer awhile back ago. And yesterday I had the chance to watch it with my family.

Daniel Radcliffe, the Harry Potter boy now takes adult role by playing as Arthur Knipp, a single parent whose wife died laboring their only son. Kipps has been having visions of her and is facing financial problems along with stress from the law firm he works at.
Knipp works as a solicitor in a law firm and he was on the verge of being unemployed, except if, he's up to the task finishing the paperwork for the estate of Alice Drablow, who owned an English manor known as the Eel Marsh House.


Eel Marsh House stands tall, gaunt and isolated, surveying the endless flat salt marshes beyond the Nine Lives Causeway, somewhere on England's bleak East Coast. Here Mrs Alice Drablow lived - and died - alone after the death of her husband and her stepson Nathaniel. Kipps is quite unaware of the tragic secrets which lie behind the house's shuttered windows. He only has a terrible sense of unease. And then, he glimpses a young woman with a wasted face, dressed all in black, at the back of the church in the graveyard to one side of Eel Marsh House. The locals not only cannot or will not give him answers - they refuse to talk about the woman in black, or even to acknowledge her existence, at all. So, Arthur Kipps has to wait until he sees her again, and she slowly reveals her identity to him - and her terrible purpose.

Although the plot itself is not that good, this movie offers surprise attacks to keep you entertained during the show. Many times you will jump on your seat as the ghost appears screaming, or just simply the raven flies out of the furnace. Unsurprisingly, group of teenagers who watch with me in the cinema loudly screams many many times, often I got extra shock from their terrifying horror screams rather than the movie itself. Recommended for couples on a date, especially if you have easily scared boyfriend : p

From his drool-inducing naked role in Equus, to Arthur Knipp in Woman in Black, I think Radcliffe has been maturing. Not to mention that stubble that makes him looks smoking hot hot hot :D
Although admittedly, Harry Potter movie franchise is not that good compare with the experience you might have reading the books.

Next in line: Johnny Depp's Dark Shadows

Random Weekend

It's weekend! And I'm in Jakarta for holiday. Yet there's a big 'but' in the end of those sentences.
BUT I cannot go anywhere during this weekend.
I just had minor teeth surgery which made my teeth looks like vampire fangs, and not the pretty kind. Sob... And why on earth did my dentist decide to do this on weekend T.T
If you're like me which barely spends your days at your hometown, that is a big disappointment. Oh well, at least this MONDAY she will fix it up. The teeth I mean.
Until then I will restrain myself from public appearance. #determined

And I got a very weird dream last night, about my recently-resigned senior Tom, I dunno why all of a sudden I had a dream about him. And erotic dream even more! Well, I admit he's kinda hot with his stubble and voice (he really can sing btw). And I suspected him gay (He once accidentally splashed 'that bag is cute' phrase during conversation, duhz!). But never before I got attracted to him sexually.
In that dream I remembered him being naked and I can see that he has shaved and cut p*beep*s. Ah Tom, why do you have to resign so fast...

And here's, my fellow blogger, one hillarious video to conclude my random post for today. Hail Lohan! Hail Killam! Just click at the image to play..